Thursday, March 20, 2008

GAYLE'S ASHES



As I said in my earlier post, Spreading Ashes, my brother-in-law, Frank, (husband to my deceased sister, Gayle) and I went to New Orleans to spread a few of her ashes in City Park, because the place had meaning for us, since we had spent time there as children and because the park was the place where Gayle and Frank met.

The picture above shows the spot in City Park where Frank spread Gayle's ashes, somewhere between the palm and the oak tree. It's a beautiful place, across the lagoon from the Peristyle. I didn't think to say a prayer, but I believe that the whole outing was a prayer, including lunch and a later visit to Audubon Park to put ashes in the lagoon there. I hope that Frank won't mind my sharing this, but they used to park and talk at Audubon Park after school - trust me, it was mostly talk, because it was often daylight. Sometimes, the police would come by and drive them away from their talk.

Altogether, Saturday was a lovely day. We felt somewhat sad, but mostly we experienced a sense of rightness about what we were doing, leaving a part of Gayle in the city that she loved to visit in places that were meaningful for her and us. Frank and their children and I all feel the ache from Gayle's absence in our lives every day, Frank and the children more than I, I'm sure. We'll never stop missing her, however, all in all, it was a good day.

Pictured below on the left is the restaurant, La Vita, where Frank and I had a delicious lunch of Italian food after the spreading of the ashes in City Park. The picture on the right shows the bar in the restaurant, made of what look to be rough, old barn boards cut to size. It's a funky thing of beauty.


13 comments:

susan s. said...

Thank you, Mimi for taking us with you. It is a lovely place and you had a nice day for it, eh? I'm sure she would be pleased that you did what was wanted.

FranIAm said...

I have been praying about this Mimi- thank you for sharing.

The entire outing was indeed a prayer and a beautiful one at that.

God bless my friend. Peace to you.

Easter is upon us- new life.

Paul said...

Peace be yours, and Frank's, and the children's, and Gayle's until we rise together in glory. When I think of NOLA, I think of Audubon Park.

pj said...

I know Gayle was with you both for this outing. (((Mimi)))

Grandmère Mimi said...

The sun was shining, as you can see from the pictures. It was a little warm for spring, but the next day, the weather turned cool again.

I do believe that Gayle was with us in her strong spirit, and I know that we shall have a grand reunion when we rise and come together in the land of glory.

johnieb said...

And "what a day of rejoicing that will be": thanks, dear Mimi, for this foretaste.You are blessed in knowing Gayle, and she in you; that's the way of it, eh?

Grandmère Mimi said...

On that blessed happy morning
When old friends are reunited
And when all our loved ones we shall see again....

Grendel said...

Haiku for Gayle:

In the park, a breeze
comes and caresses us softly
Gayle would have been pleased.

Dennis said...

it looks like a lovely place

Grandmère Mimi said...

Dear Grendel, thank you. You are a good, kind-hearted, and talented dog.

Dennis, it is.

Kirstin said...

((((((you)))))

eileen said...

(((((Mimi)))))))

I agree - a prayer in it's entirety.

Happy Easter.

He is risen indeed...Alleulia...

Grandmère Mimi said...

Eileen, thank you. A blessed and happy Easter to you and your family. You're all in my prayers.