Monday, February 5, 2007
A Day In Court
My heartfelt thanks to you to all of you who have been praying for my son and his family in the custody hearing. We spent the whole day in court today, but nothing has been settled. My daughter-in-law will not negotiate, so there will be a full-scale trial, with testimony and the works, with my husband and me and others on the stand, on Februaru 26. Still more suspense. This is wearing all of us down. I'll remind my prayer warriors out there as the time nears to pray again. Lord, have mercy.
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Oh Mimi,
ReplyDeleteMy heart cries for your family... having been through a divorce (without children involved) I understand a little of the way this whole thing can overwhelm your life... it feels like a nightmare at times.
Clumber, tonight I am a basket case. I took my walk, and I metaphorically shook my fist at God and said, "God, why are you doing this to us?" Very quickly, I had to smile to myself and say, "God isn't doing this to us; people are." I know the God of love will be with us through the trial - in both senses of the word.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your concern.
By the way, I think it's OK for us to shake our fists at God sometimes - maybe not the best thing to do - but OK. He/She can take it.
Mimi---I have checked here obsessively all day. I'm so sorry to hear that things are not resolved. I'm shocked that, with the mediator recommending joint physical custody, your DIL is fighting it.
ReplyDeleteIf I thought it would do any good, I'd tell you to send me her phone number and I'd have a chat with her. But I suspect prayers will have more of an effect, so I'll keep them coming.
(((Mimi & Family)))
Paige, thanks for your hugs and kisses. DIL would not talk to you. She hardly speaks to me and wants no suggestions from my son or any of his family.
ReplyDeleteI think she is going to be surprised at the amount of money she's going to have to pay out, because they can't come to an agreement. All she's paid so far is the retainer.
God is cool with us shaking fists at him. He's the man. He can take it.
ReplyDeleteIt's like when your kids hate you because you were the last person they saw, when they are really mad someone keeps stealing their lunch money or hurting their feelings.
It's safe to be mad at God. You know he'll love you through it, no matter how mad you get.
Now, I'll try to pray benevolently for you DIL, but, it will be HARD.
It is more fun to pray for fleas to land permanently in her panties.
I used to do this work (did I ever tell you?). I know second-hand how hard it is.
ReplyDeleteGod's peace be with you. All things shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well. Do not be afraid.
Eileen, you made me laugh, and thank you for that. Fleas in her panties. Really.
ReplyDeleteSometimes it's hard for me to pray for her too, but then I remember Jesus' words, "Pray for your enemies," - not that she's my enemy exactly. At times I do feel genuine compassion for her, and at other times I feel very angry.
Rmj, thanks. My son's attorney is great. She prefers negotiations to attempt to work things out, and she truly cares about the welfare of the children, but my DIL's guy seems to think he will "win" by being hard-nosed and going to trial. I'll add that he is not a divorce specialist, as is my son's lawyer; he is - as we say - a slip and fall guy.
ReplyDeleteUh-oh. Your daughter in law has an ambulance chaser, it looks like. To continue the thread, "May he be bitten by the fleas of a thousand camels."
ReplyDeleteMimi, {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} to you and your son and whole family.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Mimi,
ReplyDeleteWhat a bummer.
This evening I heard +Gene speak. A young Columbia student from the Falls Church asked him what he would say to those who have left. He said, "Pray for me. I am praying fo you." He also said that they probably didn't understand what they were doing. I'm sure your DIL doesn't.
Allen
Grandmere Mimi,
ReplyDeleteContinuing prayers for you and your family.
The anger and hurt are there because people and loving relationships are involved and they matter. I think that indifference, while it might not hurt so much, would be far worse.
BJ
Thanks for the update. I was wondering how things turned out.
ReplyDeleteThis is an awful thing for you and your family to have to live through. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Get some rest and treat yourself well right now. Shake your fist at the sky a little, too. God is big enough to handle it.
(((Mimi)))
ReplyDeleteLet's sing all together now...
May the bird of Paradise fly up her nose...
May she get a nasty runner in her hose...
May the bird of paradise fly up her noooooooose.....
Eileen, what would I do without your silliness to make me laugh? Thanks again. It's my first cheerful moment of the day, and it means a lot.
ReplyDeleteEveryone, thanks for the prayers and good wishes. I'll remind y'all around the next court date to storm heaven again.
Today is a bad day for my son, and for me and my husband. We can't even talk to my son about what happened yesterday, because we will be witnesses.
"Our help is in the name of the Lord, who made heaven and earth."
We mortals could not make our lives more difficult if we sat down and made a plan to do just that.
ReplyDeleteI think I've mentioned before that similar circumstances happened in my family between my brother (Who was not blameless.) and S-I-L (Who was not blameless.). It was very upsetting to see how family members carried hatred toward others in the situation. Until they began to forgive, it was like everyone was dragging a dead, moldering body behind them. "Pee-yew!" I would say. "What's that smell?" I'm not sure if that helped or not.
Peace of Christ to you and your family, Mimi.
Mimi, not much sage advice or words of comfort to add to what others have said here, except to say that I have you all written down on my prayer list and will pray morning and evening for God's comfort and strength.
ReplyDeleteMuch love and hugs to you and yours.
We mortals could not make our lives more difficult if we sat down and made a plan to do just that.
ReplyDeleteKJ, my dear, sad but true. Nice and smart people like you help to bring me God's peace.
Tim, thank you, and everyone for the prayers. I think they help me retain the little sanity that I have. I was, after all, a little crazy before these troubles began.
I know that you write down prayer requests, and that you are faithful in your prayers. That brings me great comfort.
Hugs back to you and your family. I know that you are a hugging man, and that you won't pull away like some folks I know.
Mimi,
ReplyDeleteI'm just checking in after a very hectic two days in the fast lane of parish ministry.
I'm glad for the update but not for the outcome.
You know, it's been thirty years since our big custody battle, but I still get chills up my spine just thinking about it.
Please know that even though I've been away, you have been in my heart.
NOTE TO Eileen: Dear woman, we have to talk. Have you considered that God may not be "the Man"?
Have you considered that God may be "the WOMAN"?
I mean, how many men do you know, really, who could take all this crap and still have the energy at the end of the day to create a magnificent sunset?
And then, wake up the next morning and create an equally magnificent sunrise?
I'm just saying . . . .
Elizabeth, we will be walking through the dark valley, but the Lord will be our comfort.
ReplyDeleteThe hardest part is not being able to talk to our son about the testimony from the other side, which he got to hear, but we did not. We have been his confidants throughout the ordeal, but since we will give testimony, we cannot hear the others testify, nor can he speak to us about what they have said.
With respect to God's gender, I'm with you, Liza. I feel self-conscious in referring to God as "he", but "she" is really no better, because I don't think God has a gender. He/she is awkward and a pain. So what do we do?
There's an argument to be made for the Spirit being a she - Lady Sophia, you know.
Actually, Elizabeth+ - I'm so indoctrinated to think of God as father. I have to force myself to not do that - so thank you for calling me out on it!
ReplyDeleteI think God is actually both - mother/father. We humans are incomplete expressions of his complete being. (Although, of course I think women are more near to complete then men - well, except gay men, who are sometimes closer to being in touch with their feminine then hetero men, who are just scared of that.)
So, God is really Creator. God is the ALL and the NONE...the MORE.