Many churches offer "Longest Night" or "Blue Christmas" services. Paraphrased from Episcopal Life.
During these shortest days and longest nights of the year, many church congregations offer services meant to bring comfort to those who struggle to find the joy of the Advent and Christmas seasons.
Often called Blue Christmas or Longest Night services, many take place the evening of December 21, the night of the winter solstice, and are designed for people who are coping with loss. Those people hear the Christmas song that describes "the most wonderful time of the year with the kids jingle belling and everyone telling you 'Be of good cheer'" but instead feel they are living the lyrics of the 1957 hit "Blue Christmas" when Elvis Presley sings "I'll have a blue Christmas without you, I'll be so blue just thinking about you."
We hold before God:
those for whom life is very difficult;
those who have difficult decisions to make , and who honestly do not know the right thing to do.
We hold before God:
those who have difficult tasks to do and to face, and who fear they may fail in them;
those who have difficult temptations to face, and who know only too well that they may fall to them, if they try to meet them alone.
We hold before God:
those who know that they can be their own worst enemies.
We hold before God:
those who have difficult people to work with;
those who have to suffer unjust treatment, unfair criticism, unappreciated work.
We hold before God:
those who are sad because someone they loved has died;
and any who are disappointed in something for which they hoped very much.
William Barclay
From Celtic Daily Prayer.
Wendy Cope:
ReplyDeleteAt Christmas little children sing and merry bells jingle,
The cold winter air makes our hands and faces tingle
And happy families go to church and cheerily they mingle...
And the whole business is unbelievably dreadful if you're single.
Less elegant than Barclay, but you get the point.
I do, James, though it's been a very long time since I was single. There are people whose presence I miss, so I know a little of what you feel, but surely not the full force.
DeleteWell, my church had its Lessons & Carols service last night (Yours Truly sings in the St Michael's Choir). I really don't think that service is "unbelievably dreadful if you're single". Actually, I don't think that's true of "Midnight Mass" (ours is at 10PM ;-p) either. [5PM "Family Eucharist", however....]
DeleteJCF, I'm pleased you enjoy the services. I do, too. Each of us pass the season in our own way, carrying our own baggage. If there was a Blue Christmas service around here, I just might go.
DeleteOh baggage, sure. Just not inherently "single" baggage, is my point (except for 7 of my 52 years---all Episcopalian---I've always been single).
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