Sunday, January 17, 2010


Someone is bitchy enough to say it like it REALLY is!

When I stand up for
myself and my beliefs,
they call me a

When I stand up for
those I love,
they call me a

When I speak my mind, think my own
or do things my own way, they call me

Being a bitch
means I won't
compromise what's
in my heart.
It means I live my life MY way.
It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.

When I refuse to
tolerate injustice and
speak against it, I am
defined as a

The same thing happens when I take time for
myself instead of being everyone's
maid, or when I act a little selfish.

It means I have the courage and
strength to allow myself to be who I
truly am and won't become anyone
else's idea of what they think I 'should' be.

I am outspoken, opinionated and
determined. I want what I want and
there is nothing wrong with that!
So try to stomp on me, just try to
douse my inner flame, try to squash
every ounce of beauty I hold within
You won't succeed.

And if that makes me a bitch, so be it.
I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.

B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself

B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman

B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle 'anything'

Don't blame me. Blame Sue, who will probably say I'm lying.

Update from the comments:

Rick+ said...

I think the final line should be, "And if I did all these things and was a man, I'd be called assertive."

Quite true, but, of course, I'd never say that, but Rick is a man and he can.


  1. I think you are all those wonderful things without the hateful label.

  2. The label may be hateful, but maybe like other hateful words it needs to be co-opted.

    Amen sister!

  3. You're right, Fran. And Mimi, i would never say you're lying.

    I'm a BITCH and I know it.


  4. Co-opting hateful words is a good strategy. Mimi, it fits. You could have written it and it's all true (except for the hateful word used by those who want to put us all in "our place.")

  5. Good morning, all. What a wonderful way to start my day - with my bitchy friends. And I mean you, too, Göran and Paul. Love to all of you.

  6.      I think the final line should be, "And if I did all these things and was a man, I'd be called assertive."

  7. Rick, indeed! Of course, I would never say that, but you're a man, and you can.

  8. Precisely, Rick. "Bitch" is a put-in-her place term used where men would be called bold, assertive, and strong. Here's to bold, assertive, strong women!

    Co-opting can also be a good thing. A younger generations has claimed queer as a positive term. I remember when I wanted a T-shirt that said, "That's MISTER Faggot to you!" One must develop inner strength to be able to turn hateful terms around though and it is not easy when we associate them with a lifetime (or generations) of psychic wounding.

  9. Paul, somehow we must strive to develop a strong sense of self and a core belief that no matter what names others call us or what others say about us, that each of us is a wonder of God's creation, and God has said that we are good.

    At least, that's what works for me.

  10. Absolutely, Mimi. And that's why I preach over and over again how much God cherishes each of us. I doubt I could say it too often.

  11. This turned out to be a sermon. Not Bad!

  12. Paul, Göran, did I ever tell you that I love you?


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